Love Is Overrated

Movies have for a very long time defined what love is supposed to mean and we have consciously or unconsciously accepted that perspective. Love, as depicted from a lot of movies, is a feeling you have towards a person. A feeling that you wish and hope can continue until the end of eternity.

But often time love is not a feeling. The feeling we have at first might be there to keep the relationship or friendship started but never expect that the feeling you have now would sustain your relationship 20 years from today.

But this is the issue. This is what movies impress on our innocent minds. That every day, our spouse would be more beautiful than they were yesterday and would continuously do what we want them to do.

But life does not roll that way. Your feeling of love should never be capitalized as the most important form of love. It is involuntary and just a feeling. Feelings come and go. So does that mean when the feeling goes, the love goes with it?

Apparently NO. Loving another person is a decision. Loving another person is a choice. Loving another is far greater than a career decision in my opinion. Because well, you can change and find a better career, but you might not be able to change that same person you love.

Love is an action, not a feeling. Love is to be able at every time to want to extend yourself far more than you can just for the other person. Love is being able to decide that your preference would come only second to the preference of your spouse. This is scary.

As humans, we always want to be at the center of attention. So when we decide to give up our personal preference for another, it is definitely not an easy thing to do. In this case, you can say you are in love.

Never feel that love is about those beautiful eyes, those beautiful smiles. Love is being able to withstand it all when the beautiful eyes and the beautiful smiles are all gone. Far gone.

Would you still decide to still be here when everything seems to be going south? Would you give up your time and energy not only for your personal gain but for the gain of others? When you can comfortably say YES to these questions, you can be in love.

Imagine the love parents have for their children. Such love is a decision. They simply decide that no matter the child they have, they love the child no matter what. Imagine if parents relied on love at first sight to love their kids. Well, some of us might not have found parental love.

Love is a choice, a decision. Not about impulse feeling that is greatly upscaled by our sexual desires. Remember that sex is in no way a full determinant of love. Otherwise, why do men not fall in love when they patronize other women, not their wives. They simply see it as a way to relieve themselves not a way to love.

So take your time today to consider what you truly see and consider as love. Is it that feeling still running in your mind or that decision you have made to be with that person even when all things seem to have gone wrong?

Love yourself first, then seek to love another. Only then can you know what true love truly means. Do you forsake yourself because you made a mistake, or you did something wrong? Why then do you want to forsake the person you said you love.

Love triumphs when both parties are willing and ready to make the choice to love one another. Only then can true love grow and exist.

Thanks and God Bless.