Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person

I started this article a long time ago but with a different title, the title was Marry Right. In my opinion, I felt if you did some things right, you would eventually find that other person who is just that part you are missing. Well, yes, you can find that person, but the chances of you finding that person is higher only when you are in a movie and you are the movie director.

Otherwise, we would continue to do one of the things human do well, make mistakes. But know that it is okay to make mistakes, but most importantly, make mistakes for the right reasons. Our environment and community has made us into people who just follow our feelings and impulses, and if that person makes us happy today, they would make us happy for the rest of our lives. So we take time trying to understand if that person is compartible with you. And one sad thing about this is that during this period, what we are most looking out for are the good parts of the other person so we can proudly tell our friends and family the good sides of the person.

However, such partner may only exist in our fantasies. The ones that would always make us happy every day. No day would pass that they would make us look bad or anything. So we already have this concept of what the other person should be and that is what we keep looking for everyday in our marriage. And know that when you continue to seek what is impossible, you might be dissappointed. But what you can otherwise do is to understand that people are not always completely good or bad. And that if you must marry a person, you must definitely like them for some good reasons, but you must also love them despite the other side of them that you do not like.

And it is in understanding that love is more than just a feeling, love is about making a decision to go with one another even though you do not look compartible. But both of you are willing and always ready to make it work, understand that you can have something going. Not that it would be perfect, but that you can continuously make it better. In seeking for perfection, you would be dissappointed, but if you go with imperfection and continuously work on it, it would get better everyday and you would have something close to that life you wished for.

So many would marry the wrong person because they had a different impression of who they were getting married to. A person that would everyday look more beautiful than they did the other day. A person who would never get angry or frustrated at their childishness. No, everyone wants the good side of the other person, but we can never always have it. So understand that love is more than just the marriage, it is about how much you are willing to sacrifice that really counts.

So when our parents say they love us, it is more about how much they are willing to lay on the ground to make us go further than they did. It is not about the feelings they have for us in their bellies, it is much more than that. So as you continue to seek that partner who you would spend the rest of your life with, understand that they are not always going to be perfect and that is okay. What is more important is making compromises. Everyone has to make compromise anyways.

So keep pushing, love but know that the other person is not perfect, give as much as you can even though others might not give as much, it is the sacrifice that we do in the end that makes it worth our while. So keep going, keep moving, and love always. Go out there, get that person, get married, and live life. You have the whole of your life ahead of you. Stay blessed.

Thanks and God Bless.

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